We know human beings (that includes terrorists) want to thrive. We know how to promote thriving through the satisfaction of three basic psychological needs for autonomy, relatedness, and competence (ARC). Why aren’t we doing it?
Imagine if we took a portion of the billions of dollars spent worldwide to wage war and begin a visionary journey to peace in two ways:
- Help societies satisfy the psychological needs of their population
- Teach motivation as a skill
Help societies satisfy the psychological needs of their population
Ghettoization does not promote thriving. This is why a suicide bomber regards death as a welcomed alternative–a promise of an afterlife that is more satisfying than his or her current experience.
There is an under-the-radar group of Muslims who work in some of the most desperate Muslim communities with three intentions:
- Spearhead projects that improve living conditions and create community pride
- Provide skill training for men to do the work themselves so they acquire the experience to ensure ongoing work opportunities
- Educate women on the true meaning of Islam because research shows that mothers have the greatest opportunity to educate their children
One small, dedicated group of Muslims has made enormous positive impact–but they can only fund so many major projects at a time. What if we expanded their model? Even in America, diverting money from ineffective and expensive drug wars to improve our failing infrastructure while skilling workers would be an investment worth taking to build people’s sense of relatedness and competence. With skills in hand, they would also have more choices (autonomy). The United States jails more prisoners per capita than any civilized country on earth were. Imagine if the outlandish money spent to do so was refocused on education and helping people find meaningful work?
Teach motivation as a skill
There’s an old story of the immense effort townspeople put into pulling drowning people out of the river downstream instead of going upstream to prevent the situation in the first place. When did we get so complacent in throwing money at the aftermath of a problem instead of dealing with its root source?
We know how to deal with the root source of human suffering. We know because of an evolutionary idea that could become a revolutionary one: Motivation is a skill. We can teach people to…
- Perceive they have choices, control their response to any situation rather than play the role of victim, and act out of their own volition (autonomy),
- Feel part of a greater whole, find meaning in their work, and contribute to the welfare of others (relatedness)
- Learn and grow so they can better cope with the challenges they face on a daily basis (competence).
We are already teaching leaders in organizations worldwide how to use the science of motivation to shape workplaces where people’s psychological needs are satisfied. Why can’t we embark on teaching parents, educators, and political leaders how to facilitate people’s satisfaction of their psychological needs?
Motivation is a skill that can be taught, learned, nurtured, and sustained. People can learn to experience high-quality motivation anytime and anywhere they choose. We are already teaching individuals the skill of motivation so they can better cope with a workplace that often undermines their psychological needs. People are learning to
- Identify their current experience of autonomy, relatedness, and competence
- Shift to a higher-quality experience through self-regulation
- Reflect on the difference made in their productivity, sustained performance, creativity, innovation, mental and physical health, and overall sense of well-being.
People long to thrive. Fear and thriving cannot coexist.
Fundamentalism in any form is based on fear. Fear of going to hell. Fear of not going to heaven. Fear of change. Fear of a way of life being threatened. Fear of persecution. Fear of not experiencing three psychological needs for ARC that is not consciously understood.
How do we vanquish fear and promote thriving? For thousands of years we have waged war to end human suffering. It hasn’t worked. We cannot vanquish fear, anger, and hate by imposing more fear, anger, and hate. We cannot eradicate people’s use of power, status, and revenge through our own use of power, status, and revenge. Gandhi reminded us, “There is no way to peace. Peace is the way.” Maybe it is time to wage peace by focusing resources on helping societies create living conditions that don’t undermine people’s psychological needs. Imagine if instead of arming troops, we armed individuals with the skills for satisfying their psychological needs for autonomy, relatedness, and competence.
I hoped to provoke thought on the question posed at the conclusion of part 1: How can we use what we know about the true nature of human motivation to change our approach to terrorism? Now I ask: What’s stopping us?
- Maybe you think the idea of solving one of the world’s great issues by satisfying three psychological needs is too simplistic.
- Maybe you think teaching enough people the skill of motivation to reach a tipping point is implausible.
- Maybe you think political leaders are too self-serving to care about the implications that need thwarting has on society as a whole.
- Fill-in-the-blank with another reason.
I grant you, this is a huge dream with significant barriers. But, grant me this: In a world where we have the power to destroy life as we know it with the push of a button, we also have the knowledge to promote human thriving. We can begin a long-term strategy by accepting the true nature of human motivation and arming individuals, parents, educators, and leaders with the skill of motivation to satisfy a world literally dying for ARC. We can begin waging peace today. Really, what’s stopping us?